Tell All - Part 1

The conversations and stories I've been having and sharing over the last 2 weeks have been WILD.

I'm trying to decide how all these stories want to be told and so ... I have created a space where it will all be happening.

You all know storysharing is my jam, and you're all well aware that I am an irreverant, direct, truth telling woman with a real desire to shine a light on whatever has been pushed down into the darkness for way too long.

So ... if I can do it, why can't you?

Let me start by telling you this story ...

I wrote a book and finally finished editing it this year. It was a mammoth process, but so worthwhile considering what the subject matter was. But ... it no longer wants to be released as a book. There is something different, greater ... in store for this thing.

When I wrote it I knew I wanted the title to cause a stir ... of course ... that's me all over.

So ... I chose the title 'Own Your Life You Magnificient C*nt' - yup - you read that right.

I howled with laughted when I landed on the name, immediately messaged my biz bestie who I have a CEO Vision day with every week, and told him about it, and he joined in my laughter and celebrated the boldness of it.

The word 'c*nt' is a massive trigger for some people. But let me tell you ... I was the same.

Back in 2003 a man I knew, not the nicest human being at all, used it often, derogatively towards women all day every day. I hated the word. I hated it coming out of his mouth. The disdain I felt was immense, and I thought ... I will NEVER use that word.

But in 2009 I met up with an old friend and that woman uses the word 'c*nt' like most people use the words 'the' and 'and'.

Suddenly it sounded altogether different and I went on a little journey for myself. Did I really hate it? Why? What was it about that word that made me wrinkle my nose? And if it was just because of 'Mr 2003' ... was I really going to allow someone to dictate my use of a word?

Nah ... not happening!

So ... I began trying it out.

Now you've got to remember, and this only really matters to me because of my upbringing, eleocution lessons as a child, a mother who ate english for breakfast, lunch and dinner, and who got off on writing other people's essays for them.

I have an extensive vocabulary. English is a buzz for me, I write, read a book every day, can put a poem together in minutes, converse extensevely with people who are the same when it comes to language, and ... I do. not. like. limits. So ... I am all for using whatever 'bad' language you want so long as you can hold a conversation without it. There is no such thing as 'bad' language. Who coined that term anyway?

Cuss words are like the dramatic effect, or the finishing touch on an outfit from time to time.

They mean absolutely nothing only the meaning we give them, and the intent behind them, and they only hold the power we apply to them. Simple ... only words.

I cuss like a sailor sometimes, interjected into whatever life changing conversations I have, and ... I can also not.

I also am very aware of the stigma, the taboo-ness of the word 'c*nt' and it fascinates me.

Why such an issue?

So .. of course I decided to go check out where it all began ... 1230 to be exact. Yup ... the word has been in use for all that time. And back then it was normal to use. It meant 'a little house' when describing the womans vagina. How funny and cute is that? And very apt really.

The article I found had me howling with laughter, when a friend came to my house and asked was I ok. So, I proceeded to read her the article out loud and she too was howling.

So, here I am, openly using the C word, and when I use it, in context with what's coming next, it is a powerFULL, beautiful, thing of might ... and so is the bearer of the name.

When I realised the book with that name was not meant to be a book but a podcast, I bet you can't imagine what happened in my big beautiful brain when it came to the graphic I would create for this podcast. No ... you really can't.

I shared that graphic with some of my closest people and the responses were prediminately positive. 'Very on brand Ciara', 'Well that's going to make an impression', 'Holy sh!t, I will never be able to unsee that' - while he laughed uproariously, 'You don't do things by halves do you Ciara', 'I very rarely am rendered speechless', and then there was one that wasn't positive and honestly, I totally got it. And it was in that moment I truly realised the power of going ALL IN and speaking from your truest self, sharing the fullness of your story, and not being afraid of any push back because ... what I am intending on doing with this pod won't be for the faint hearted. it won't be for those who want to play it safe, or who want to be careful in their lives, and THAT is the power of truth.

The truth of who you are, the full story of you deserves to be heard, and when it is ... the people who are right to be in your world come flocking.

And the ones who aren't ... they leave. And that is ok.

No hard feelings, no ill will, no bad blood or vibes, just alignment or not.

And I also am so fully aware that while this is my truth, and the way I want to share it is from me and of me, because of my life, my experiences, my passion, my drive, my allergy to the idea of having to limit myself to play it safe in case someone things I'm too much and it makes them uncomfortable, someone else's truth might come through in a different way for them. It's all good.

You deserve to tell the truth your way.

You deserve to shout it from the rooftops in the exact way you want to ... no holds barred, no holding back ... total unapologetic and raw YOU.

So drop in if you want a FREEDOM SESSION to unleash your truest self and tell the story about it.

Let's go ALL IN on the fullest expression of ourselves.

xoxo

Ciara